Why ‘Being Too Much’ is Exactly What the World Needs

Victoria L. - Holistic Midlife Strategist
Jul 23
2 min read

Updated: Aug 4

For every woman who’s been told to shrink—this is your permission slip to expand.

We’ve all heard it before: “Don’t be so emotional.” “You’re too sensitive.” “You’re too loud.” “Too opinionated.” “Too intense.” “Too much.”

Somewhere along the way, we started to believe these statements. We shrank. We softened our edges. We made ourselves small enough to fit into the rooms we occupied—whether in jobs, families, marriages, or friendships.

But somewhere along the way, we forgot how powerful we were when we took up space.

Midlife? Woke Me Up to My “Too Muchness”

Perimenopause didn’t just shake up my hormones; it shook up my identity. Suddenly, I found myself crying more, snapping more, and needing more. I felt broken.

But what if it wasn’t brokenness? What if it was clarity?

What if midlife strips away all the burdens we were never meant to carry, allowing us to finally stand in our truth?

Let me tell you something: When you stop performing, when you stop pleasing, and when you stop apologizing, you might just remember who the hell you are.

The Power of Embracing Your True Self

You’re not too much. You are exactly enough. The world desperately needs your fire.

We don’t need more women shrinking themselves into silence. We need women who feel deeply, speak truthfully, and live unapologetically.

Your “too much” is the exact medicine another woman needs to witness. Your chaos, your honesty, your belly laugh, and your no-BS boundaries—they’re healing.

My Journey of Self-Expression

In my book, I stopped holding back. I left in the cursing. I shared the breakdowns. I allowed myself to be loud, raw, and real—because I knew someone out there was waiting to feel seen.

Chaos Clarity and Confidence: Finding YOU Again isn’t just a book. It is a mirror, a permission slip, and a rally cry for every midlife woman who has ever been told to tone it down.

If you’ve ever been labeled “too much,” I wrote it for you.

It’s Time to Embrace Your Fire

So go ahead and:

Laugh too loud
Cry in public
Say the things they’re afraid to say
Be bold, be messy, be wildly, radically YOU

Because midlife isn’t the end. It’s a rebirth. It’s time for women like us to rise—exactly as we are.

The Importance of Community

Finding a community of like-minded women can be transformative. When we share our stories, we create a safe space for others to express their “too muchness.”

Engaging with others who understand your journey can provide the support you need. It’s a reminder that you are not alone.