Why ‘Being Too Much’ is Exactly What the World Needs

Victoria L. - Holistic Midlife Strategist
Jul 23
2 min read

For every woman who’s been told to shrink—this is your permission slip to expand.

heard it before:“Don’t be so emotional.”“You’re too sensitive.”“You’re too loud.”“Too opinionated.”“Too intense.”“Too much.”

Somewhere along the way, we started to believe them: We shrank.We softened our edges.We made ourselves small enough to fit the rooms we were in—jobs, families, marriages, friendships.

But, somewhere along the way… we forgot how powerful we were when we took up space.

Midlife? Woke me up to my “too muchness”

Perimenopause didn’t just shake up my hormones—it shook up my identity. Suddenly, I was crying more, snapping more, needing more—and I felt broken.

But what if it wasn’t brokenness?What if it was clarity?

What if midlife strips away all the things we were never meant to carry so we can finally stand in our truth?

Because let me tell you something:When you stop performing, when you stop pleasing, when you stop apologizing…You might just remember who the hell you are.

Here’s the truth:

You’re not too much.You’re exactly enough.And the world desperately needs your fire.

We don’t need more women shrinking themselves into silence.We need women who feel deeply, speak truthfully, and live unapologetically.

Your “too much” is the exact medicine another woman needs to witness.Your chaos, your honesty, your belly laugh, your no-BS boundaries—they’re healing.

In my book, I stopped holding back.

I left in the cursing.I shared the breakdowns.I let myself be loud and raw and real—because I knew someone out there was waiting to feel seen.

Chaos Clarity and Confidence: Finding YOU Again It’s not just a book.It’s a mirror. A permission slip. A rally cry for every midlife woman who's ever been told to tone it down.

If you’ve ever been labeled “too much,” I wrote it for you.