How I Took Back My Story—and My Sanity—in Midlife

Victoria L. - Holistic Midlife Strategist
Jul 9
2 min read

…and why that matters to you

You’re Not Alone—and this is your invitation to rewrite your story too.

Midlife isn’t just a transition—it’s a reckoning. One day, you realize you’ve become an expert at disappearing—say yes too much, people-please until you're empty, and whisper, “I’ll be okay,” even when you’re not.

I know. Because I lived that.

I woke up one morning in a life that looked nothing like mine—overworked, burnt out, hormonally out of sync, and completely disconnected from my voice. I was wearing costumes for everyone else, while my own story sat unwritten.

Sound familiar?

Why that version of me didn’t work, and why it's not working for you either.

I assumed burnout was simply "part of the deal." Being constantly exhausted seemed normal, right? We are just doing everything correctly, so it means we all feel this way.

I believed that letting go of perfection equated to failure. I feared that if I allowed even a small flaw in my perfect façade, everything would collapse around me. I thought revealing the messy truth would drive people away. I was concerned that if people saw the real me, they would run in the opposite direction.

Instead of working for me, this version of me, She kept me silent, small, and stuck.

Writing my book felt like a fix—but the version that was released first was… safe. Edited. Tame. The real me didn’t come through—and neither did the message I needed to share.

The moment everything changed

On July 3rd, I relaunched Chaos, Clarity and Confidence; Finding YOU Again but this time, it was raw, unfiltered, and unapologetically real. Every raw joke, every hormonal meltdown, every reclaiming moment went back in. It wasn’t perfect—but it was honest.

That’s when my sanity came back. That’s when women started telling me: “This feels like my story.” And that’s when I knew we needed this conversation—together.

Listen, You need to know why your story matters too

Because midlife isn’t a breakdown. It’s an awakening.
Because your chaos isn’t baggage. It’s sacred fuel for transformation.
Because you don’t have to show up polished. You just have to show up real.

If you’ve ever thought, “I feel so alone,” let me be the first to say: You. Are. Not. Alone.

What’s waiting for you in Chaos Clartiy and Confidence; Finding YOU Again? Real stories of messy meltdowns and messy breakthroughs

Hormone-friendly practices and mindset strategies to reclaim your voice
A step-by-step path from invisible to unshakeable

Want to go deeper?

Grab your copy of Chaos to Confidence (July 3 relaunch!)
Join the Book Club (launching July 10) to share your journey with sisters who get it. Join HERE
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